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What you shouldn’t say on your first online date

First online dates can really turn out to be a nerve wrecking experience, especially for men who meet someone new for the first time. According to statistics, there are a few mistakes men usually say at first online dates that can really be a turn off and will definitely not ensure a second one.

1. You remind me of my mother, when she was young, of course.

Although in your mind this sounds like the supreme compliment you can pay a woman, given you have a great relationship with your mother, you date may not perceive it as such. You may consider her a perfect math as you connect from your first conversation, and you have a great deal in common, she seems nurturing, kind, trustworthy and definitely relationship material, and to quote you “of course” you compare the feelings she brings in you with a mother figure. Best case scenario, she will see you as “mamma’s boy”, worst case scenario, a psychopath with obvious Oedipal issues, either way she will not give you another chance, so try to avoid this comment as much as possible.

2. You have such a beautiful neckline, do you moisturize?

If you don’t want to imply that you have a certain Twilight, vampire-related fetish, or that you’d love to just put your hands around that perfectly moisturized neck, and not in a good way, try to skip this observation and just compliment her on her dress or a lovely scarf she’s wearing. It is self-implied, and you should know that, when having on a first online date, she will definitely use a moisturizer cream, so asking her that is kind of redundant, plus, as mentioned above, your intentions might fall in the other extreme.

3. That’s nothing to worry about, the doctor said it’s just a rash!

She will probably not notice it, so please don’t bring your skin condition to her attention with gruesome details. If she stares, you can reassure here with normal terms that it’s nothing to worry about, and if it’s something that looks very bad, you can easily reschedule the date. She certainly doesn’t want to know your medical history, nor your recent development of a skin rash.

4. I’m into knives and guns

You are not a Spartan, and she will definitely want to keep a distance if on the first date to tell her all about your knife and gun hobbies or hunting skills. Sex appeal does not come from painting a detailed picture of animal violence and slaughter in her mind. And unless you’re dating Xena, the warrior, your knife or gun collection at home, will not impress her at all. Try something softer but still manly like rock climbing or wilderness photography which also imply a perfect cocktail of physical force use and certain risks to be taken.

5. Your place or mine?

This has got to be the biggest mistake a guy can make on the first online date, unless she is an escort, when this question is futile, and the obvious answer is of course, at your place. However, if you’re your dating a normal woman, you should definitely avoid such questions. Even if you get the right signals and the date seems to be going great, you MUST NOT ask her this. Trust us, if she wants it too, she will let you know. There are other, more subtle questions, you can ask that could help you get a hint in that direction such as “What are you doing in the morning” or ”What are you up to later”, but even these are not completely recommended. Moreover, if you sense that she is that special lady for you, do not even try to push it, and have some patience, as this will be dully noted and appreciated on the long run. If you are only looking for a one night stand, a first date with a woman is not the perfect place to start. Maybe you should try a bar and wait until you’re the only guy left.

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